Although I have attended Remembrance Day ceremonies at the National War Memorial in Ottawa in the past, I decided this year to support a smaller event whose theme was peace and reconciliation rather than war. On November 10th, I was one of about 300 people who heard an agonizingly sad but ultimately hopeful speech by Dr. Izzeldin Abuelaish. He is a Palestinian paediatric physician and peace advocate whose house in Gaza was struck by Israeli tank shell on January 16, 2009.
Abuelaish, a widower, was home on that day with his eight children and other family members and was scheduled to give an interview on Israeli television via cell phone. A shell fired from a tank killed three of his daughters, aged 14, 15 and 21, along with a 17-year-old niece. Shada, another daughter, and a second niece were injured. The journalist who called moments after the attack found the doctor sobbing inconsolably. â€œMy girls, O God, They are dead,â€ he said and pleaded for help. The video clip was broadcast around the world. Abuelaish and his family became the face of the human suffering of Palestinians in Gaza. A ceasefire was declared two days later.
The New York Times describes Abuelaish as â€œa rarity, a Gazan at home among Israelis.â€ He told his Ottawa audience that he practiced medicine in both Gaza and Israel and that he has delivered as many Jewish babies as Palestinian ones. His tragedy has not deflected him from the path of peace and reconciliation. â€œI am Muslim but we have to go beyond that to think about humanity and what brings us, Muslims and Jews, together,â€ he told his Ottawa audience. â€œI believe that God is good and even tragedy is good. I assure you I am looking forward. I believe that everything is possible other than having my daughters back.â€
Ed Broadbent, former leader of the New Democratic Party and a human rights campaigner, was the eveningâ€™s moderator. â€œAs a Canadian, a father and grandfather,â€ Broadbent said to Abuelaish, â€œit is almost impossible for me to conceive of losing these children as you have lost your daughters.â€ Broadbent then said to the audience: â€œIt would be easier to understand if Dr. Abuelaish came through that with dreams of vengeance. He continues to reach out to those who might be considered his enemies but he does not see them as such.â€ Abuelaish was nominated for the 2009 Nobel Peace Prize for his efforts to bring peace between Israelis and Palestinians.
He was in Ottawa as the guest of Potlucks for Peace, a group of about 30 Jewish and Arab people who gather monthly to share food and talk about peace in the Middle East. The groupâ€™s members do not always agree on solutions â€“ whether, for example, there should be one state or two states in the region, or whether Israeli settlements pushed into the Palestinian West Bank are justified in the name of security. I have, at previous of their events, sensed tensions over the Israeli occupation of Palestinian lands on the one hand, and anxiety about Israeli security on the other. The potluck group appears to hold it all together through mutual respect and discipline. â€œWe believe that out of the willingness to engage in dialogue, solutions can arise,â€ the group says on its website. â€œWe hope that our very existence sends a positive message.â€
Abuelaishâ€™s story has a Canadian twist. He had been invited to the University of Toronto for a three-year medical residency and was making plans to move his eight children to Canada when his home in Gaza was shelled and his three daughters killed. Abuelaish did come to Toronto in March 2009. His 17-year-old daughter, who was injured in the attack, spent four months in hospital and is now studying computer engineering in Canada.
Abuelaish draws many of his peace analogies from his practice of medicine. â€œAs a physician, I am not allowed ever to give up hope on a patient. We must act and we must forgive each other,â€ he said. â€œNo one is perfect. We make mistakes. Forgiveness allows us to move forward.â€ He also said: â€œAs a doctor, I know that hatred is a toxin. The path of light in the long run is the more efficient choice than to live with hate and be consumed with revengeâ€
He is an inspirational speaker in the best sense, but his response to questions indicates that he is not a politician or diplomat and is unlikely to be one those negotiating land for peace or the future of Israeli settlements. When asked during the question period if he is in favour of an economic boycott of Israel similar to that against South Africa in years past, he did not answer that question but spoke about his high hopes for peace initiatives driven by the Obama administration. Asked whether he favours a one state or a two-state solution for the region, he said the question was theoretical and fell back on a medical metaphor. â€œSurvival is most important at the moment. The first action is to stabilize the patient. One state or two states is theoretical. There is a Palestinian nation and an Israeli nation and they must live together in peace.â€
I did not attend the Remembrance Day ceremony at the National War Memorial but I watched it on television. It is always moving to see the veterans but less so the fly bys, march bys and the firing of canons. As I watched and heard the television commentary, it was all about us: our freedom, our sacrifice, our families and our heroes. Even the armed forces chaplain who spoke could invoke Godâ€™s caring and sympathy only for us. In this ceremony, there was no compassion for the other â€“ the bride and groom and their guests in an Afghan wedding procession, for example, who were bombed to bits in 2008 by an air strike called in by NATO soldiers. No one on Remembrance Day recalls the deadly mess of war that remains for others to clean up after the troops have withdrawn â€“ the unexploded land mines, the buildings and fields in ruins, the shrapnel embedded in flesh and the body burns from white phosphorous.
Potlucks for Peace and Dr. Abuelaish attempt to reach across a divide of fear and hatred to acknowledge and embrace the other. Our officially planned and sanctioned Remembrance Day ceremonies do not.
I have always had a problem with Remembrance Day ceremonies as you do: they are always about us. As a minister I have been involved in ceremonies at a cenotaph but as they read out names I could not help but remember two of my uncles who were killed on the other side of the battle line. They had no option but to join the German army. A cousin of mine was a driver for a German General but one night in France he had had enough, got into the van and drove like crazy to surrender to the American forces. My father was a quality control engineer in a Canadian firm producing aircraft equipment that would be used to bomb our homeland. Father was also a member of the Hastings and Prince Edward Regiment, the Hastip.es. We were in Canada as refugees escaping Hitler’s Gestapo who were looking for my father. Hitler and his horde of thugs were always my greatest enemy. But I was never allowed to forget that there were humans on the other side. Life is not simple especially when it comes to life or death. My prayers for them had to be in silence
Thanks for this piece. I heard an interview with Dr. Abuleish on the radio the other morning and he sounds like a remarkable man. The path that he has chosen to follow seems to begin with what people have in common, rather than their differences.
Thanks also for the thoughtful reflection of Remembrance day.
Thanks for sharing this thoughtful piece to think about during this time of Rememberance. It is so remarkable and in many ways disruptive to today’s dominant narrative of vengeance to hear Dr. Abuleish react to his tragedy with hope and forgiveness. In Saskatoon this Rememberance day I was aware of a growing level of discussion among people about how to Remember without engaging in this call to arms that seems to be increasingly woven into the ritual.
All the best,